Just The Two Of Us.

As my son is getting older, I can't help but wonder who would want to miss out these stages of life. His quest for ever learning and his way of doing things is just simply amazing to me. (As you can tell I am a first time mom)

Being a single mother I have noticed that my son and I are incredibly close. We do everything together (as if I have a choice) but anywhere I go, here is my little man with me. No complaints, I would rather him with me than him with anyone else. With all that being said, I’m seeing the good side of it just being us two.

Here's a few things.

Our bond – our bond is incredible. I get to say I saw all his first. Celebrated all his milestones just him and I. Although he will be 2 soon, the hugs and the kisses make up for any silly thing I was mad about. The smile I put on his face with just the simplest thing, makes me happy. I love the trust he has for me, knowing that mommy will never let him down (it’s a huge responsibility but one I am particularly proud of). I’ll wear the super mom cape for as long as my son let me.

The final say – I don’t have to argue with anyone else when it comes to the welfare of my child. It’s my way or the high way. My son and I are on a particular schedule and he already knows what to expect from his mother. I don’t have to deal with the “but daddy said” or “I’ll ask dad instead”. At the end of the day mom has the final say.

More quality time – even though sometime I wish I could run away (I could never) from my responsibilities. I love every second I have with my son. The good, the bad, and the tantrums.

No arguments – the only argument I have is with myself. My son’s father chose not be in his life so I do not have to speak, ask, or tell him anything when it comes to rearing AJ. Hence no disagreement when it comes to AJ. I battle with myself when it comes to bettering AJ.

Support system – when my son was born, I’ve become and grown closer to the ones I want in my life and eliminate the ones that do nothing for my situation. As a single mother friends and family can be a huge support system. There are times when I think I won’t be able to make/do it and with their encouragement it makes it easier. Having a great support system can make or break a single parent.

Control of finance - that is the tightest and hardest part. Of course more money will make a difference but I am in control of my own money. With no support and doing it all by myself. I can proudly say my son is maintained and very much okay.

Knowing who my son is – I will know my son better than anyone because I am the one who is raising him. I know all his likes, dislikes, quirks, facial expression, non-verbal cues. What he is thinking without even telling me. Knowing that I am raising a little boy who I expect to be respectable, loving, open minded, acceptable and caring to all.

Empowerment – I have changed for the better becoming a single mother. I have become a stronger person. Knowing that I am doing a 2 person job by myself 24/7 gives me a great sense of pride. People ask “how do I do it?” I can’t even answer that question because I still don’t know how I do it, I just do it.